(English below)
Una de las muchas manifestaciones de la ansiedad son los
pensamientos repetitivos, algunas personas tienen conductas como las
adicciones, cerrar la puerta 30 veces, y ultimamente chequear el celular son todas
acciones para “aliviar” la ansiedad, sin embargo, algo tan simple como pensar
puede llegar a ser la droga secreta que todos llevamos.
No me mal entiendan, pensar no es malo, el problema es que
cuando pensamos y pensamos sin parar, cuando sentimos que la cabeza no da mas y
parece que va a explotar, cuando sentimos que nunca va a detenerse hasta que la
mente colapse en locura…eso si es obsession.
El asunto aqui es entender que debajo de todo ese ruido
mental, lo que se esconde es la ansiedad, y la funcion de los pensamientos es
tratar de bajar de alguna manera ese ahogo que muchos hemos sentido. Una vez
que comprendemos el por que de su presencia podemos proceder a darles las
gracias para que se puedan ir.
Hay una razon de porque sugiero tomar una actitud de paz
para con los pensamientos, y es porque lo que resistimos persiste, como tratar
de parar el cauce del rio con una tablita en las manos, en realidad no estamos
deteniendo el rio y solo estamos desgastandonos. Segundo, es como apagar fuego
con fuego: entre mas trataba yo de calmar mis pensamientos obsesivos, mas
crecian porque me encontraba a veces tratando de combatirlos de forma obsesiva
tambien.
Ademas, todo lo que le damos nuestra atencion ahi estamos
depositando nuestro poder, igual que un nino que hace berriche, si lo ignoramos
no le quedara mas que calmarse. Pero volviendo a la paz, lo que me ha resultado
major es primero: la aceptacion, no pelear con lo que esta pasando, por mas
incomodo que sea, decirse: ok, hoy mis pensamientos andan un poco locos, todo
esta bien, todo esta dentro del orden divino dentro de mi camino de
crecimiento, este momento, esto que esta pasando esta dentro de eso que tengo
que pasar para mi aprendizaje. Segundo: habla con los pensamientos, ponles una
silla y les preguntas para que vienen a visitarte el dia de hoy? Que funcion
estan tratando de cumplir en este momento en tu vida? ….normalmente al final les
digo que les agradezco pero que yo puedo manejarme bien sin ellos, y les invito
a irse en el proximo tren ya que estoy ocupada disfrutando el presente.
Tercero: meditar, de la manera que quieran, por 5, 10, 20 minutos, no importa,
meditar nos pone de nuevo en el presente y nos libera de todo pensamiento.
Todas las emociones tienen un proposito, asi que si
encontramos la funcion, lo mas probable es que la emocion desaparecera. Mi
sugerencia es hacer todo el proceso siempre desde la perspective del
observador, un observador amoroso y en paz que solo esta interesado en el
aprendizaje que yace detras de cada experiencia en nuestra vida. Ese observador
que ve un orden divino en todo lo que sucede, ese observador que siempre esta
en calma pues su fe de que todo estara bien es mas grande que cualquier duda o
miedo que pueda llegar.
Convertirse en el espectador de la obra y no en el personaje
principal que termina en tragedia, observadores
de nuestra vida y no victimas, solo de esta manera podremos mantener la paz en
medio de la tormenta, solo asi podremos aprender a flotar para despues dejarnos
llevar por la corriente.
Those obsessive, obsessive, obsessive thoughts ...
One of the many manifestations of anxiety is repetitive thoughts, some people have behaviors like addictions, closing the door 30 times, and lately checking the cell phone are all actions to "alleviate" anxiety, however, something as simple as thinking it may become the secret drug that we all carry.
Do not misunderstand me, thinking is not bad, the problem is that when we think and think without stopping, when we feel that the head can't go any more and seems to explode, when we feel that it will never stop until the mind collapses in madness ... that is obsession.
The issue here is to understand that underneath all that mental noise, what is hidden is anxiety, and the function of thoughts is to try to, lower in some way, that drowning that many of us have felt. Once we understand why they're present, we can proceed to thank them so they can leave.
There is a reason why I suggest taking an attitude of peace towards thoughts, and it is because what we resist persists, such as trying to stop the river bed with a board in our hands, we are not really stopping the river and we are just wearing ourselves out . Second, it is like putting out fire with fire: the more I tried to calm my obsessive thoughts, the more they grew because I found myself sometimes trying to combat them obsessively as well.
In addition, all that we give our attention to, that's where we are depositing our power, just like a boy who does a tantrum, if we ignore him, he will have nothing but to calm down.
But going back to peace, what has been the best for me is first: acceptance, not fighting with what is happening, no matter how uncomfortable it may be, saying to yourself: ok, today my thoughts are a little crazy, everything is fine, everything is within the divine order, within my growth path, this moment, what's happening right now, is what I have to go through for my learning. Second: talk to the thoughts, put a chair on them and ask them why they come to visit you today? What function are you trying to fulfill at this moment in your life? … Normally at the end I tell them that I thank them but that I can handle myself well without them, and I invite them to leave on the next train since I am busy enjoying the present. Third: meditate, the way you want, for 5, 10, 20 minutes, it doesn't matter, meditating puts us back in the present and frees us from all thought.
All emotions have a purpose, so if we find the function, chances are the emotion will go away. My suggestion is to always do the whole process from the perspective of the observer, a loving and peaceful observer who is only interested in the learning that lies behind each experience in our life. That observer who sees a divine order in everything that happens, that observer who is always calm because his faith that everything will be fine is greater than any doubt or fear that may come.
Become the spectator of the play and not the main character that ends in tragedy, observer of you life and not the victim, only in this way we can maintain peace in the midst of the storm, only in this way can we learn to float and then let ourselves go by the stream.
Those obsessive, obsessive, obsessive thoughts ...
One of the many manifestations of anxiety is repetitive thoughts, some people have behaviors like addictions, closing the door 30 times, and lately checking the cell phone are all actions to "alleviate" anxiety, however, something as simple as thinking it may become the secret drug that we all carry.
Do not misunderstand me, thinking is not bad, the problem is that when we think and think without stopping, when we feel that the head can't go any more and seems to explode, when we feel that it will never stop until the mind collapses in madness ... that is obsession.
The issue here is to understand that underneath all that mental noise, what is hidden is anxiety, and the function of thoughts is to try to, lower in some way, that drowning that many of us have felt. Once we understand why they're present, we can proceed to thank them so they can leave.
There is a reason why I suggest taking an attitude of peace towards thoughts, and it is because what we resist persists, such as trying to stop the river bed with a board in our hands, we are not really stopping the river and we are just wearing ourselves out . Second, it is like putting out fire with fire: the more I tried to calm my obsessive thoughts, the more they grew because I found myself sometimes trying to combat them obsessively as well.
In addition, all that we give our attention to, that's where we are depositing our power, just like a boy who does a tantrum, if we ignore him, he will have nothing but to calm down.
But going back to peace, what has been the best for me is first: acceptance, not fighting with what is happening, no matter how uncomfortable it may be, saying to yourself: ok, today my thoughts are a little crazy, everything is fine, everything is within the divine order, within my growth path, this moment, what's happening right now, is what I have to go through for my learning. Second: talk to the thoughts, put a chair on them and ask them why they come to visit you today? What function are you trying to fulfill at this moment in your life? … Normally at the end I tell them that I thank them but that I can handle myself well without them, and I invite them to leave on the next train since I am busy enjoying the present. Third: meditate, the way you want, for 5, 10, 20 minutes, it doesn't matter, meditating puts us back in the present and frees us from all thought.
All emotions have a purpose, so if we find the function, chances are the emotion will go away. My suggestion is to always do the whole process from the perspective of the observer, a loving and peaceful observer who is only interested in the learning that lies behind each experience in our life. That observer who sees a divine order in everything that happens, that observer who is always calm because his faith that everything will be fine is greater than any doubt or fear that may come.
Become the spectator of the play and not the main character that ends in tragedy, observer of you life and not the victim, only in this way we can maintain peace in the midst of the storm, only in this way can we learn to float and then let ourselves go by the stream.
